What You'll Do
Day-by-Day
Day 1 → Clear the Fog + Get Oriented
A 30–45 min discovery-style session where we name what’s really happening and start lifting the fog.
Day 2 → Identify What Matters Most
A practical 20–30 min session to clarify your top priorities—what you must protect and what you can release.
Day 3 → Imagine Your Strongest Self
This is where we stretch a little: if nothing was holding you back, what would life look like?
Day 4 → Turn Clarity Into Action
Together, we’ll translate your insights into one concrete next step you can take right away.
Day 5 → Anchor Support for the Road Ahead
We’ll recap what you’ve uncovered and connect you to steady, ongoing support so you’re not walking this alone.
About Kristen
I was married for 22 years, to a woman I loved. I didn’t think of it as “abuse.” I thought I was the problem—too sensitive, not good enough, always doing it wrong. The change was slow, like the frog in the pot. I adapted, apologized, and tried harder.
Control crept in. Money was monitored. I once texted photos of toothpaste from the store so I’d bring home the “right” one. I learned to ask permission for tiny choices. When I finally said I wanted to move out, I was told I couldn’t. I believed it—until a friend said, “You’re 55. You don’t need permission.” I moved out when she was out of town.
Hearing others describe my exact reality cracked the mirror. A support group and the book It’s Not You put words to what I couldn’t name. The fog started to lift. Leaving wasn’t one big decision—it was a series of clear, grounded steps back to myself.
I coach from that place now—practical, trauma-aware, and LGBTQ+ affirming—because I know how disorienting it is to feel erased by slow conditioning. If any part of this sounds like your life, you’re not alone—and you’re not “too much.” You’ve been surviving.